Congratulations to the Duke and Duchess of Sussex on the birth of their beautiful baby boy, Archie! It seems to be a baby boom of boys this year!
Yesterday, I watched the BBC News interview with the new adoring parents and the journalist posed the question “Is he sleeping well? A good baby?” Now at two days old, I am not entirely sure how you’d be able to tell!?
However, this is something that I can share familiarity with, with the birth of my son. Aside from the mandatory “Congratulations” I almost always get asked “Is he a good baby, how is he at night? Sleeping through yet?” My answers roll off my tongue like empty rhetoric from the amount of times I have said them!
What exactly is a good baby? Why does society feel the need to already make judgements / standardise a child that is not even a year old! I too was getting caught up in the trap of standardising my son; daily I found myself on the week by week baby developments, obsessing over whether or not he had hit the suggested milestones. Truth be told, I soon snapped myself out of that habit and no longer check. Instead, I indulge in the surprise of my son doing something new every day and as long as he is happy and in good health that’s all that matters!
And so he doesn’t sleep through the night yet but who cares! He will in his own time, complete his own milestones and I am content with that!
There really is no such thing as a ‘good baby’ and we must all be particularly careful that we are not causing unnecessary pressure and guilt to parents, from our lack of sensitivity!
Sleep deprivation is a serious thing and if you feel like you need the support, then please reach out to me and I can point you in the right direction!