Often times, I find myself making comparisons about all types of things; from childhood milestones, fashion, jobs, relationships, music, hair and the list goes on…
The Oxford Dictionary defines “comparison” as: ‘A consideration or estimate of the similarities or dissimilarities between two things or people.’ Upon reading this definition what really stood out for me were the words ‘consideration’ and ‘estimate’. Why then do we (I) spend endless time devaluing myself by making comparisons?
There were several directions I could have chosen for this post but as a young woman, I thought I would focus on the comparisons that I make in relation to myself. Have you ever said things like: “They have bought their own house already and I’m still renting” or “That couple is so cute, they clearly are in a happy relationship and now engaged but what about me, single!?” Well I certainly have!
I have compared many things in relation to my level of financial security, housing, career, facial features, fashion and general lifestyle – to a point in which I began to discredit and undervalue all the things that I already have. As I develop daily, I no longer make comparisons to discredit myself but more for 1) Motivation 2) Encouragement/ Appreciation of others.
- Motivation – sometimes you require that nudge in order to get yourself in gear 5 and to get the wheels in motion. Although I was doing things, I lacked consistency and true dedication. By seeing what others did, I recognised the hard work and effort that they put behind it and this really encouraged me to self-reflect on my own present motives.
- Last night, I went to a concert and I was surrounded by hundreds of random strangers; I took a moment to think about the beauty of the people that I saw but also to, in a strange way, acknowledge and appreciate their hidden stories. Every person there had worked hard to achieve the reward of purchasing tickets (it may seem silly, I know). It has made me appreciate that behind every face there is a story but most importantly, a journey!
Signing out for now.