I was inspired to start this action in my life through engaging with the Mums that Slay (Yvadney’s) #dopefriday session.
You see I’m a “mummy/mum” twice over now and soon to be for the third time. I have realised through stepping out of my comfort zone and being DOPE, that there is a lot of conditioning, I have endured over the last almost 10 years of being a mum!
I remember when I first found out I was pregnant with my daughter, I immediately decided that I would no longer engage in certain things I used to. Some of these were of course a necessity to let go off but I assumed that being a mum meant I could no longer have fun or be myself! I changed the way I spoke, dressed, thought about others, interacted with us etc. I became somebody I didn’t recognise…
Now of course, naturally in becoming a parent your priorities change and your focus is different but that doesn’t mean to say, you must put aside things you are passionate about and enjoy! I often hear the saying “your life ends when you have children,” I couldn’t disagree more with this statement! In my opinion, life begins…
It all depends on how you view motherhood and define the role in your life. I have decided to redefine the role of motherhood in my life, as I no longer see it is a restrictive vice but actually an opportunity to allow my personality to flourish.
One of the ways I have done this, is to reconsider what it means to be a “hot mumma” and not to shy away from this. I’ve always loved fashion, expressing myself through it but I shunned this idea when I became a mum. I think it was partly due to a lack of confidence and also the societal pressures of being a ‘young mum.’ However, I have encountered a network of mummies who are as DOPE and HOT as anything; proudly so!
Upon reflection, what kind of role model am I to my children, if I teach them to confine themselves based on the judgements and interpretations of others? Fashion is my passion and expression something I will do freely without any worry or anxiety surrounding judgement by others!
So here’s to more fashion statements and the redefining of motherhood!